A Larger Life Awaits
Our existence here does not last. But what does it ask of us? And how is this asking played out in our lives? We may resist it, but eventually this world consumes our flesh and bones. And what then will remain of our existence? Will our children bear the scars of our...
Relationship Crisis: Danger & Opportunity and Friendship
Standoffs in Relationship: Couples often end up in my office when they are facing a standoff. This arises when one member of the couple begins to withhold from the other. Sometimes this actually comes at the request of one of the partners to the other, but more often,...
How Couples Counselling / Marriage Therapy Works
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” 13th century Persian Poet Jalaluddin Rumi cuts straight into the essence of what I try to do in my work with couples who come to me...
How to build self esteem
According to the bible, Adam and Eve ate from the tree of knowledge of good and evil... In addition to losing their place in the garden, they also lost some sense of perspective. Many of us have not yet reclaimed the view that each of us is unique. When we fully...
The Power of Relating in Relationships
If i were to tell you that the sun was hot, you would surely agree that this is the truth. If i asked you if it were absolutely true, again, you would agree. And it would be true because you are thinking about the question in relative terms. The sun is indeed the...
On Relationship and Character Development:
There is some general knowledge in the general population about the phases of relationships. Most have heard of the concept of the honeymoon phase. The honeymoon phase comes to a close when each of the people realize that their beloved, ... has some problems. It is...
Fanaticism and Fana: Tolerance, Acceptance and Curiosity in Anxious Times
It has become somewhat of a badge of honor in recent decades in western culture to say that you fancy yourself a sports fanatic, or a coupon fanatic, or a fanatic of any other sort. Well... except of course, the religious sort, which i will get on about later...
Capitalization of the “I”
Have you ever noticed that “we” isn’t capitalized, that “you” isn’t capitalized? So why is “I” capitalized? What does it mean? And lastly, In what way is it capitalized? More importantly than why “I” is capitalized, what seems noteworthy is the subtle inherent...
Defining spiritual guidance and discerning it from counseling/psychotherapy and the priority of soul in spiritual guidance.
Humanistic psychologist Rollo May wrote a book entitled "we have had 100 years of psychotherapy and we are only getting sicker". The field of psychology treats psychological problems from the general perspective that there is an illness that needs to be diagnosed and...
“I want to thank you so much for all of your insight, advice and wealth of knowledge that you shared. Your calm, soothing personality and voice made it easier to relax and open up. I haven’t felt this relieved and hopeful in a long time. Thank you. You have a gift. Those that get to know you and work with you are lucky and better off because of it!”
~ Therapy Client